Tracey and Jon got married on Saturday. This is Dee and I waiting for the taxi — serious business. The blokes! Awesome suits! A cool change had just come through Brisbane and it was pretty windy up there on the … Continue reading
This guest blob is by the brand, brand new Jess Jackson, Dee’s bestie and my fellow ginga! You may remember I blogged about her wedding way back when. So I recently asked Jess to give me some insight into how she pulled this off. (And plus all this wedding stuff looms upon Dee and me soon). And here it is…Enjoy!
On 18 August I married a pretty awesome guy.
James proposed when we were in New York in December 2010. To be honest, I was completely shocked! Sure, we’d talked about getting married, and I knew James was the guy I wanted to spend the rest of my life with…. But I guess I’d only ever thought about ‘being married’, as opposed to the act of ‘getting married’.
I was never the type of girl who sat around planning her dream wedding, but when James presented me with the opportunity to plan a wedding, I was pretty freaking excited.
We didn’t set out to intentionally have a non-traditional wedding. We just did what felt right to us, and that’s how it turned out.
Our wedding criteria was thus: nothing lame, nothing stuffy – just a whole lot of fun in an environment conducive to maxing relaxing and some serious partying.
I’m also a total control freak, so I wanted the whole thing to be DIY… Crazy! We managed to pull it off with the help of our amazing friends and family. More on that later!
So this is the story of how we planned our vintage inspired pizza party barn wedding!
The non-bridal party
I’ll kick things off by explaining that we didn’t have a traditional bridal party. There were a few reasons for this, but it was mainly because we liked the idea of our wedding being just about the two of us… I hope that doesn’t make us sound like selfish A-holes!
In place of a bridal party, we decided to involve all of our ridiculously talented friends in ways that would exhibit their incredible creativity. It worked out amazingly. Here’s a list of our suppliers (all our dear friends!):
Save the date and invitation design – Ben Breitenstein
Celebrant – Paul Voge
Cake maker – Tegan Travers
Ceremony music – Lloyd Budd and Andy Martin
Photographers – Bayleigh Vedelago and Chris Proud
Videographer – Paul Voge (multi-tasking extraordinaire!)
It meant so much to us that we were able to pull together pretty much an entire wedding with just our network of friends. Amazing!
Kenilworth Homestead was the first and only venue that James and I looked at. We knew straight away that it was perfect.
After a few trips to the venue, our plans really started to take shape. The barn was to be the focus of the wedding. With two distinct areas, a huge fireplace, and plenty of space for dancing… It was perfect.
We decided we would use the big tree next to the barn as the focal point for the ceremony, and pre-reception drinks would be held on the lawn in front of the barn. We figured this was the best use of the space, and would allow the whole day to flow nicely.
Please refer to the barn floorplan below for further illustration. (This floorplan was my pride and joy in the wedding planning process… It’s to scale!)
The greatest part about the venue was that there was accommodation on site for over 100 guests! We offered free accommodation to all of our guests, and to our delight, most of them accepted! I drew and printed maps of the venue and individually tagged them for each person staying the night… On the day of the wedding, we had a ‘self-serve’ check-in area set up, with the maps displayed in alphabetical order for collection… It worked flawlessly!
Styling the venue was always going to be a mammoth task… It’s a huge space, and I’d seen photos on their Facebook page of weddings that had tried and failed to achieve that worn-in rustic barn feel. In order for it to work, the space needs to be filled well.
My ‘wedding vision’ ended up driving James and my parents crazy… I was so particular about what I wanted and how things should look, that it made the acquisition of decorations a nightmare. I wanted nothing swirly, nothing that screamed “love” (when trying to explain this to my dad one day, I told him it was because “love is gay”), nothing that looked remotely modern, and everything within a neutral, earthy colour palette. Lots of wood and glass. White flowers only, with lots of greenery. This = wedding vision.
I think it’s super important to decide on a wedding vision early and champion it throughout the whole process. Everyone involved needs to be on board with wedding vision!
Our friend Paul gave us a piece of advice that proved to be invaluable in the styling process – whatever you’re doing, do it big. And so we did.
After a year of collecting and crafting, our styling inventory contained:
800m of fairy lights
70m of handmade bunting
5 coffee tables
5 floor lamps
6 A-frame chalk boards
1 bolt of hessian
~50 assorted vases
100+ glass jars
100m of twine
1 custom stamp
100 mix CDs as wedding favours (branded with our custom stamp)
150 lolly bags for the candy bar (also branded with our custom stamp)
A whole lot of confetti
+ other miscellany
Plus, we needed a few feature items. We went with three cardboard deer heads for the barn (from Cardboard Safari), and a giant red wooden love heart for the ceremony (drawn by me, cut out by my dad, and painted by James).
My amazing dad also made us the arbour that formed the entranceway to the ceremony.
The only items we hired were the trestle tables, dry bars, Americana chairs and bar stools. And the pews for the ceremony were owned by the venue.
We bought the flowers from the Rocklea Flower Markets and made the arrangements ourselves.
The Wedding Dream Team
With so much STUFF, we needed some serious help to a) transport everything to the venue, and b) set everything up!
And so, The Wedding Dream Team was born:
Jess Jackson (nee Kearney) – bride, director and visionary
James Jackson – groom, lighting expert and sound technician
Judy Kearney – mother of the bride, chief style consultant and voice of reason
Steve Kearney – father of the bride, executive producer and slideshow guy
Dee Spink – pseudo bridesmaid, style consultant, BFF
Jess Jardine – pseudo bridesmaid, style consultant, BFF
Andy Martin – MVP, all round awesome dude
Michael Job – MVP, all round awesome dude
Michael Kearney – uncle of the bride, licensed heavy vehicle driver
The Wedding Dream Team assembled at my parents’ house at 8am on Thursday 16 August. By noon, we had loaded a ten tonne truck, two 4WDs, 1 van, and 3 cars with all our wedding finery, and we were on the road to Kenilworth.
We spent the next two days stringing fairy lights, placing furniture, arranging flowers, hammering stakes and filling jars with candy.
It was so rewarding to see everything fall into place. I loved the two days we spent setting everything up. After a year and a half of planning, collecting and crafting, we were finally ready to get married!
CLICK ON THE PHOTO ABOVE TO SEE THE ANIMATION. (ps do it!)
The big day
When the big day arrived, I was surprisingly calm.
The morning seemed to drag a little, and by the time the ceremony came around, I was super anxious and excited.
The ceremony was my favourite part of the day. James and I wrote our own vows, and in place of a “reading” we had our two oldest friends (Ben and Dee) write and recite something anecdotal about us. It was super special.
Reception format, et al
Something I’ll note about the reception is that we didn’t have a seating plan. It worked really well to create more of a relaxed party vibe. All we did was reserve a table for us and our parents to sit at during the speeches, and the rest was a free for all!
We kicked off the reception by going straight into speeches. We wanted to get the formalities out of the way so we could all get dancing. We had five speeches, which totalled about 45 minutes, and then dinner was served.
My darling husband is nutritionally challenged. He’s seriously the most fussy person I have ever met. So what do you serve at a wedding where all the groom eats is meat and bread?… Pizza!
We hired a guy to come to the venue and make woodfired pizzas on site. We had these served to tables banquet-style, so people could help themselves.
Loaves and Fishes took care of the rest of the catering. They prepared two antipasto feasting tables for pre-reception drinks, complete with local Kenilworth cheeses and olives. They also prepared salads to accompany the pizzas, and took care of the beverage service.
Not many people stayed at their tables for dinner, which was what we had hoped would happen. We wanted people to enjoy the venue, and not be stuck at a table for the whole night.
And after dinner, the dancing started! I’m a firm believer in maximising time allocated for dancing at weddings… Very important!
The rest of the night consisted of dancing, drinking, and eating cake and candy…
All in all, a perfect day and night!
DIY weddings are GREAT fun, but a lot of hard work. For any couple out there planning a DIY wedding, I’d give this advice:
1. Decide on a wedding vision early and stick with it!
2. Take any help you can get from friends and family!
And 3. Whatever you’re doing, do it BIG!
I love lists, and this is a LIST. After getting butt-deep in INXS and NOISEWORKS and BOOM CRASH OPERA et al — It was around 1996 that I re-discovered Australian rock n roll. And a bit later November used to be JJJ’s OZ rock month.
Anyway, here are my top tunes by Australian bands.
1) Apartment — CUSTARD
I have said an awful lot about this band already — but this song rips the shit up.
2) Purple Sneakers — YOU AM I
3) To look at you — INXS
Very hard to pick a favourite of INXS so I let my iTunes play count tally choose. And I am so lucky this song just jumped out. So chilled. The video clip is amazing.
4) Cattle and Cane — THE GO-BETWEENS
I read this blog today and it was a bit intense and wordy, and consequently I got a bit lost in the “importance” and let’s face it — pretension — but it was a pretty cool read. And I guess the band deserve a few sentences you have to read three times to understand.
5) DSS — SMALL FANTASY
This is the third Brisbane song here. And I think your home town just slices your skin like it’s an emo-cutter. And the blood flows and you see your nature in all it’s rawness. This is a song about getting employment benefits, something I had to do a few times, and it is also a love story. Perfect.
6) Cops r Tops — THE MELNIKS
The intermets don’t have this song so you get to hear Drew Romance instead.
7) Losin it — UNDERGROUND LOVERS
How chilled is this song? It’s like drinking a cocktail in a very comfortable chair and looking at the sunset and knowing a whole bunch of more cocktails and a decent meal is awaiting you — even though you are thinking about some lover that is quite apparent, but blissfully distant at the same time.
8) That Ain’t Bad — RATCAT
This 3 chord song with chorus key-change made everything make sense. Yeah.
9) Sweet and Sour — THE TAKEAWAYS
I loved this Tv show. It planted the seed in my shitty head that I could one day be in a rock n roll band
10) You’re The Voice — JOHN FARNHAM
This song almost got me arrested. And yes, this song is pretty cool. Embarrassing but cool. I had this party at my house and we all sang this as loud as we could and then the cops turned up and I had to face them in a “state” and attempt to defuse the situation. “It’s ‘The Voice’ — i thought we lived in AUSTRALIA. WTF?”. TRUE STORY. The cops let me off with a warning.
11) Talking to a Stranger — HUNTERS AND COLLECTORS
Just a massively dreamy trip. Enjoy.
12) NY Coal Mine Disaster — THE BEE GEES
This song is so sad, so old-school. If it doesn’t make you cry then…I dunno.
13) Fool’s Rush In — DROP CITY
A very heavy but lush and serene song. Rich in textures — the extra guitar with it’s whammy-bar attack in the heavy bits and then violins in the verses which get all heavy again in the chorus. Amazin
14) Dwarf on Dwarf — THE FAUVES
This is a song by “the Doctor” — not the usual singer in the band. But he was my fave. And he was so sensitive and rock at the same time. Kinda my whole life philosophy. Shame I can’t find the song on the intermets.
15) Can’t Help Myself — FLOWERS
Iva Davies when he was cool and edgy and didn’t have a mullet.
16) Pace or the Patience — LOVE OF DIAGRAMS
Fucking hell — this band is all style. The best of art and rock married with crazy-super-glue.
17) Get Free — THE VINES
The BEST, THE BESTEST EVER, middle 8 ever. The whole song revolves around it.
18) Evil Eye — SIDEWINDER
This is actually only my second fave song of theirs. The epic NOT COMING HOME is so much better. All 7 minutes. But this song rocks, especially the keyboard refrain.
19 Rainbow Kraut — JOHN STEEL SINGERS
20) Little Lovers — LIttle Lovers
Cause this song doesn’t exist easily on the interwebs — you get to see Red Devil instead. Good band. I think I in this clip. Whatever
This ride is Queensland’s biggest. It attracts around 10,000 riders, maybe more. And it is organised by Bicycle Queensland — who I have issues with. They just seem to be a toothless tiger for bike advocacy. But that is another story. And I only decided to do this ride at the last minute and got a ticket cause someone else pulled out.
But all that said, this is the 4th time I have done it. And it is always cool to ride with such a fuckload of bikes. Although I was riding with the Gear “fixay” crew — I was rocking gears cause I am still quite a bit ill and have this evil cough that just won’t quit. Ugh. But it seems to be just annoying now, rather then seriously sapping my strength like it did a week ago.
Meeting at Gear at 4:20ish. Scott and Jesse had been there since 3:30 having been fucked up by their iPhones reverting to NSW daylight savings time and automatically switching their alarms back an hour.
I always tell myself to take it easy, but I was feeling supreme and smashed the fuck out of the busway and then through Logan and with the average speed above 38km/hr after 40kms I finally decided I should take it easy so I dropped off the group I was with and stopped at the first “rest stop” and waited for everyone else to catch up. Jordie and Jesse seemed to miss me and must have pushed on. But soon Scott, Tom, Nick, Orlando, Erik, Bennett and the rest of the crew arrived.
Nelson and me had been waiting around for ages and were a bit itching to get moving again, so just us two left and started smashing on. Just then we caught up to the “99 bikes” bunch and they were going along quite conservatively at what I would estimate about 35 km/hr average. I decided to hang with them while Nelson plowed on. I was happy with this pace and although it was a bit messy with the many, many riders around, the crash we had to navigate around and a few tiny hills which seemed to break people — I stayed with them all the way to Dreamworld.
At Dreamworld I stopped again and waited for everyone to catch up. Nelson changed a flat and I had some honey shots and a banana. Again once everyone had eventually arrived I wanted to get moving again so Orlando and me and another dude, (whose name I forget, sorry) got rolling. I felt good so after 3kms I just pushed and led our little bunch, plus another random who hooked on almost all the way to Southport. There were tailwinds which helped things and some traffic stops which were annoying but possibly helped rest the legs.
I was feeling quite defeated by the end. I had a cramp about 1km from the finish which really sucked. The temperature was now over 30 and my jersey was once again stained with the salt from too much of my sweat. But I made it and my moving speed was 37km/hr and my moving time: 2 hours, 42 minutes. Not too shabby for a ginger in this heat nursing a sickness and having to spend a few seconds each minute letting my lungs cough their heart out.
Dee agreed to pick me up at Helensvale station so I rode that 11km there into a horrendous headwind with Tom leading the way. But this big smash on the highway meant I had to wait there another hour and a half.